Why Did I Get Married
Stereotypes
Carolyn Chairs
Humn341-F1WW, Popular Cultural
Professor Denise Schottenstein
October 14, 2008
Why Did I Get Married?
This movie “Why Did I Get Married”, produced by Tyler Perry, is one of my favorite movies because it tells the story of four friends going to a wedding retreat to spend time with each other and finding themselves in a world of trouble in their relationships. I made this my favorite movie because being a relationship myself you learn from people and watch how other relationships are and I either would like for my relationship to be like the other persons, or I would think twice about what I might do, and what I could change in my relationship.
This movie was awesome because it shows how four different relationships were all completely opposite. One couple was unhappily married so they would cheat on each other, the other was rich and the wife did not want to have a child by her husband because her job was more important than her marriage, then there was a couple that lost a child in a car accident, so the husband blamed the wife, who was played by Janet Jackson, and the last couple was the worse of them all because the husband cheated on the wife with her best friend because his wife Sheila played by Jill Scott, was over weighted.
Hidden Stereotypes (implicitly and explicitly)
In the movie “Why Did I Get Married”, I notice different types of stereotypes. One of which was implicit. Sheila was not happy with her life, but she pretended to be happy, she was quite when it came to her husband that she did not realize that he was cheating with her best friend. In one part of the movie her husband, who was played by, Richard T. Jones, made her drive all the way to the retreat by herself why him and her best friend catch the air plane. They stereo typed her for being over weighted and so he used every minute to down her about her weight he was explicit because he was very outspoken and said what ever he felt. Even though this would hurt his wife feelings he did not care. His wife was very quite and she kept to herself, so she to me was implicit and she brought a lot of attention to her by her weight, but not her words. Then you have Tasha Smith, one of Sheila friends that’s very outspoken. What ever Tasha feel is right she lets it be known. Tasha knew that Sheila husband was cheating on her so she told it all too all the family and friends at the table. Tasha loved her friend Sheila and she was tired of her husband cheating on her.
Contribution to Stereotypes
The forces that contributed to stereotypes were of social, cultural and economic. These three were emerged because Sheila husband did a lot of nagging about her weight. Ever time they would meet together for dinner or if the couple’s decided to do something her husband would bring up the issue about her being to fat or to big to do anything. Sheila husband was socially rude to her and all of his surroundings and he thought they would make him look like a good person when it really made him look evil. Then culturally and economically emergence of stereotypes because its said that women should speak when spoken to or when a man ask you to do something you are to listen and do what is told of you, but in this movie, Sheila friends was not willing to listen everyone had an opinion and they would make it known. Sheila on the other hand was quite and when her husband would tell her to does something she would do it with knows questions ask.
The reason why I believe stereotypes emerge is because of what individuals do. People sit and speak badly about a person because of what they may or may not have, or how that person was raised. For instance, in the movie “Why Did I Get Married”, you had one man disowning his wife because she gained a lot of weight. Then we had another woman not wanting to have a baby because her job was more important and she did not want to neglect her child like she was doing her husband for her job. Stereotype is every where and I see it everyday. If you walk into a store and the store is majority of whites being of another race you would be stereotype for that, and this goes vice versa.
Today, stereotypes are all around just like they were before I was born it could be misleading to others and it could be a good thing, but majority of people stereotype because they don’t know what to expect from an individual or a group of people. If you do not know a person it may be easier for you to stereotype that person before you get to know the person. We take it into our eyes and go on with what the assumptions in what we believe for this individual or group of people to be, if it’s good or bad.
There are certain functions that stereotypes fulfill. It could be from your belief, what you say or do, or from mediation. No matter what stereotype is out there, if it’s from us stereotyping others or them stereotyping us. For instance, it was stated in Charles Ramirez-Berg reading, “There is a degree of psychic comfort in fixing the Other—and the world—in this way, as if once named and defined they could be contained once and for all.” In my words I believe he is saying that stereotyping is psychological and everyone does it if they mean to or not and no matter what you do its not fixable because people are more comfortable stereotyping then figuring out a person by asking that individual or group of people who or what they are and what they do.
The movie in which I have chosen I believe shows negative stereotypes because you have a man cheating on his wife because she gained too much weight. Also, when Sheila was on the plane getting ready to go to Colorado for the resort the attendant on the plane ask her to pay for two seats because of her weight so her husband would not pay for the extra seat so he made her drive and he stayed on the plane. I thought that was negative for the plane attendant to stereotype her for her being a certain size and everyone else that looked at her funny, so in my thoughts I believe that all the stereotyping in this movie was negative, but her friends were positive when they stereotyped her because they gave her confidence and her new found man also gave her confidence in the way she looked and he told her she did not have to loose weight, but if she wanted to loose weight he would work out with her, so in all this was a positive thing for Sheila.
In summary, you see stereotypes everyday from marketing and advertising because if you turn on the television you see commercial asking you to buy products daily. For instance, there is a commercial telling you that if you try this pill you will lose weight in a few weeks. They will show you a person before the lose weight pill and after. On the before picture the women is depressed, no make-up, and posed a certain weight, then on her after picture she’s standing up, has make-up on and she’s happy. In our society we are so concerned in the way we look and what people may say about us we immediately go for this pill because we want to look like the after picture, not because you would be healthier. What we don’t know is the risks your taking behind the pill because we too are concerned about people stereotyping us so we want to make a change and quickly. I feel that this isn’t a good thing and we should pay attention more carefully to ourselves and stop worrying about what people may think of us, and we would find our self like the after picture happy, standing strong, and believing our self.
References
Charles Ramirez- Berg, Categorizing the Other: Stereotypes and Stereotyping Latino Images in
Film: Stereotypes, Subversion, Resistance. Readings Austin: University of Texas Press, 2002. pgs. 13-37. Retrieved October 14, 2008.
Definition or “explicitly” wadsworth.com/englis_d/special_features/definition.html, Retrieved
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Profiles of Popular Cultural A Reader. Ray B. Brown. UCP: 9780879728694.
Retrieved October 14, 2008, from FranklinUniversity.edu
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